Breast refusal. Who will overrule whom?

Breast refusal is possible to varying degrees - the child does not take the breast at all, takes only in a dream or half-asleep, as well as soft forms - takes only in one position, arches, etc. It's not that uncommon for what a mom might call breast refusal simply because the baby has grown, changed, and doesn't want the breast as often. It happens that there are physiological reasons why a child does not want to suckle or sucks only in a certain position - a stuffy nose, thrush in the mouth, ear pain. Below are

• articles about overcoming the condition when a child does not latch on to the breast
• Very useful materials , each in detail about a specific method used to encourage the baby to latch on - the nest method, self-latching, supplementary feeding, white noise.
• Moms' experience
• Perhaps, in connection with the behavior of the child, you will also be interested in the pages

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Moms' experience

• The child is 6 months old, she breastfed almost exclusively when she was sleepy from 3.5 months , supplemented with milk expressed from a bottle or nipple. Milk is running out. The child eats complementary foods (from 4 months). Mom removed the pacifier and bottle within a few days - a week after writing the first message, the refusal was completely overcome. https://forum.materinstvo.ru/index.php?showtopic=691086
• The return of the prodigal daughter to the breast..., or how we took all the trials to the breast (forum Motherhood, NatLuchik) The child is 2 months old , supplementary feeding from birth, lack of milk . At the time of treatment, the child refuses the breast and cries (in favor of the bottle). Not enough milk. We switched to full GV.
• Is it possible to switch to heated water in such an advanced case? (Taurus) NE, little milk from the maternity hospital . The baby takes the breast from time to time. Then a hard failure . They called a consultant and, with difficulty, taught him to supplement feeding with a spoon. We increased the amount of milk and overcame refusal (about 2 months of struggle). The child is very restless, cries a lot, sleeps poorly (this was the case before the actions began, it was even worse). The result is that the refusal has been overcome, the amount of milk has increased , and full breastfeeding has not been achieved. Possible mistakes - the mixture was removed too quickly. Topic from the old forum “Rozhany” (about the center).
• Refusal to breastfeed after illness, bites and abandons (forum “Motherhood”, MarcyYanka, Gloryok). Children of different ages - six months, a year .
• The child’s behavior at the breast, biting, pinching and screaming (forum “Motherhood”, Antithesis) A 10-month refused the breast, bites. The refusal lasted more than a week, then I got sick, my mother gave me the breast and overcame it. It may have helped that my mother lost much hope and stopped offering the breast.
• Breast refusal per year (otitis media) (community “Lyalechka” in LiveJournal, lisusha007). The child is one year old . It lasted 7 days, we managed it - I offered it to sleepy, and ended up taking it after a week. Plus a lot of tenderness, sleeping together, etc. Bodroya no longer offered, there was a review of a similar refusal after a year and a half, lasted 5 days (oksana__)
• Refusal at 11 months? (community “Lyalechka” in LiveJournal, irinych). The child is 11 months old . The refusal lasted 5 days, but the child suckled at night. The reason was that he was cutting teeth, biting, and my mother strictly said that it was forbidden. Mom slipped it in a dream, and also changed her reaction to biting, instead of the strict “Ay-ay-ay”, she calmly and gently took the breast and gave it again. Apparently, for her baby, a stern exclamation was “too much”, and after a calmer attitude + the tooth erupted, remembered and began to suck.

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What to do if your baby is on strike

If the mother and child are healthy, do not experience stress, and the quantity and quality of breast milk does not raise doubts about its sufficiency for feeding, the problem of “strike” is easily resolved:

• From the first minutes of a newborn’s life, you should not keep him in absolute silence - otherwise, in the future, any unfamiliar sound may frighten him and cause a “protest” in the form of breastfeeding. It is better to gradually accustom the baby to a variety of sounds: make calm, quiet music in the background for feeding and sleeping, turn on sounds of nature for listening, etc.;
• For at least the first 2-3 months of the baby’s life, it is advisable to protect him from large crowds of people, avoid visiting noisy places and spend more time with the child. It is necessary to do everything so that the psychological connection with the baby during this time becomes strong enough to withstand short-term absences “on business” in the future (resting for a mother is as useful as communicating with the child, and taking a short break from caring for a newborn is simply necessary! );
• By switching to a more comfortable diet “at will” (instead of feeding by the hour), you can immediately solve two problems: the child will eat on a schedule that is understandable to him “hungry - ate, full - sleep or play”, in addition, the baby will feel his importance for mom (after all, she will be the one who adapts to his wishes);
• If the reason for breast refusal is bottles and pacifiers, their use should be excluded (or limited): you can supplement feeding with a spoon - this way the baby will quickly learn the process of normal feeding.

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Creating a menu for a 10-11 month old breastfed baby

The process of “convincing” a child of the benefits of the mother’s breast and breast milk is quite complex. The most important requirement when restoring the baby’s desire to feed on mother’s milk is not to make mistakes that aggravate the situation: you cannot force, shout or punish. You need to act kindly, calmly, and more often provoke independent attempts to reach for the breast (especially if the baby falls asleep in the mother’s arms) - and peace will be restored.

Identifying and eliminating the root causes of the “strike”

Pain and discomfort are the main reasons that prompt a baby to refuse to eat in the usual way, and therefore you always need to find out what exactly is bothering the child. Careful observation, comparison of facts, analysis of the child’s previous behavior and physical condition, adequate assessment of one’s own actions and feelings - these are the tools that always allow you to “get to the bottom” of the truth. You should also not neglect the help of specialists. Remember: the main thing you need to do when your baby refuses to breastfeed is to remain calm, as your nervousness can be passed on to your baby and make the situation worse. Moreover, stress can cause a decrease in the quality and quantity of milk, which clearly will not improve the situation.

Soreness in the mucous membranes of the mouth and throat can cause the baby to suddenly refuse to take the breast - especially if it is “tight” and the baby has to make a lot of effort to suck it (a similar problem occurs mainly in the first month after birth). If you suspect that it is pain that prevents the baby from eating fully, you need to contact a specialist: perhaps the child has “thrush,” a sore throat, or teething. Pain when sucking can also be caused by otitis media, and a runny nose (even a slight one) does not add pleasant sensations.

In any case, you can’t do without calling a pediatrician, since he knows better what to do - after all, it is important to stop any disease at the very beginning, and here it is better to be on the safe side than to let the disease cause even more harm to your baby.

Discomfort is another reason for whims, dissatisfaction and refusal to breastfeed. To find out the circumstances causing concern to a child, you will need patience, observation, and intuition (the ability to “hear” your child and guess his desires). Experts call such “temporary” breastfeeding false - when the causes of discomfort are eliminated, the baby will calm down, take the breast with pleasure again and suck milk with even greater appetite.

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Jaundice in newborns: why does the baby turn yellow after birth?

It must be said right away that a child’s discomfort is a purely individual condition, and any action, sound or something else can cause it. Therefore, one can endlessly list the reasons that could disrupt the feeding procedure. Let's name just a few of them:

• Unusual taste - many babies are very sensitive to this indicator, and therefore a nursing mother should adhere to a constant diet: eating foods that are too salty, hot or spicy will inevitably affect the taste of breast milk; for the same reason, you should not use creams and ointments to treat or prevent cracked nipples - if such a problem arises, it is better to do this by temporarily excluding the sore breast from the feeding process;
• Uncomfortable body position. The child grows and develops, he develops certain habits, and new needs arise every month. Therefore, the baby’s position when feeding can affect his mood: perhaps the previous position is no longer comfortable for him, and if the position changes, on the contrary, he demands to return to the one to which he was accustomed over the previous months;
• Another reason why a baby may go on a hunger strike is a discrepancy between the hours of feeding and the feeling of hunger. If the mother feeds the child strictly according to the clock, such a rebellion is not uncommon when the child is 3-4 months old. The baby learns about the world, he moves more, which means he spends more energy. But this does not mean that the feeling of hunger occurs more often - perhaps the usual regime is no longer suitable for the child’s “internal” rhythm, and at this time he is not yet so hungry as to change the pleasure of looking at his hands to the opportunity to suck on his mother’s breast. Hence the desire to twist, grunt and whine, take the nipple into the mouth and immediately spit it out - showing with all your appearance that there are more interesting things to do;
• Loud noises in the next room or outside the window, too bright light or strangers present during feeding - all this begins to distract the child from calm eating from the second month of life, especially if the baby is easily excitable and hyperactive;
• A pacifier or pacifier can also cause a refusal to take the breast: the sucking movements that a child makes while drinking from a bottle require less effort than during breastfeeding - which is why some little “cunning” people prefer an easier method of satiation;
• Weakening tactile contacts is another important reason why a baby becomes uncomfortable sucking on his mother’s breast. Breastfeeding involves a whole range of familiar sensations for a child: the smell of the mother’s body, a soothing timbre of the voice, affectionate touches, the security of a hug and much more. If the mother is absent too often, entrusting the care of the baby to other people, a weakening of the emotional connection with the child can be fatal, and the baby will simply stop trusting the mother, losing appetite and preferring to suck milk from a bottle. That is why it is so important for a woman to be with her baby as often as possible at least during the first months.

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Should I give water to a newborn while breastfeeding?

As mentioned earlier, the mother’s nervousness, anxiety, bad mood - all these feelings and emotions are immediately transmitted to the baby, and therefore can easily provoke the child to refuse the breast. Therefore, a woman who is breastfeeding and trying to prolong the lactation period as much as possible should devote as much time as possible to the baby, avoiding conflict situations and not being distracted by everyday problems - the ideal option here would be the support and understanding of all family members.